I sent out a very personal email the other day to my insiders about some things I have been struggling with lately. The response to this email has been overwhelming.
Many of you sent words of encouragement for me or shared your current struggles and I can't even begin to tell you how much that means to me.
So this morning I'm sharing my email with all of you in hopes that you'll be encouraged to know that you're not alone in your struggles. That we all face difficult situations that wreak havoc in our lives in some form or another.
But more than anything, I want you to know this community is about togetherness and support of one another. We are not competing against each other here. We are here to lift each other up.
So without further ado...
It’s 3:15pm and I’ve positioned myself directly underneath my ceiling fan and A/C vent.
Currently, it’s 115 degrees outside. Yep, summer has arrived like gang busters here in Arizona.
Commence the hibernation phase of life for those of us lucky to live in the valley of the sun, otherwise known as Phoenix.
These are the months I dread. OK, I dread most months of the year here, but I digress.
While other parts of the country love this time of year where the kids can play outside or they can be more active because they’re not buried in snow, those of us in Arizona get to keep our kids locked up inside along with the adults.
Doesn’t that sound wonderful since the kids are OUT OF SCHOOL?? I get that winters suck in some places but at least your kids are in school for most of it.
Now imagine 8 weeks with them trapped inside due to the heat??
Do I sound stressed? Angry? Hostile?
Probably all 3.
For sure I’m stressed and I have been for awhile, but I don’t want you to stop reading right here thinking this is going to be some depressing email.
I want you to keep reading. Because I think you will be able to relate.
But more importantly, you will see that I’m human.
Let me set the scene first…
Me - self-employed women’s fitness coach with one part-time assistant
Husband - self-employed brick and mortar business owner with 5 employees
That’s 2 business owners in our house.
Throw in a mountain of debt. I mean we are only in our third year of business.
FUN FACT: Most new businesses fail within the first 5 years. No biggie right? No need to stress, right?
So to say that we’ve been scraping by is an understatement.
Add in kids and general life stuff and you’ve got a recipe for a nice pile of stress.
Yeah, let’s call it stress.
For me, it’s been overwhelming, suffocating, and draining. Obviously for my hubby too. He definitely carries more of the burden than I do as the main provider for our family.
We have cancelled vacations, weekend getaways, tightened our budget, etc.
And I totally get these are first world problems. I mean big deal we cancelled vacations right? There are people going without food, shelter, and clothing.
I’m not sharing this with you to make you feel sorry for me or guilty about not signing up for coaching. I’m here to share my passion for fitness with every woman regardless of their relationship with me.
I’m writing to you today as a fellow stressed out wife, mom, working woman, entrepreneur AKA busy woman.
I want you to know I understand. That I hear you. And that it’s OK not to be OK all the time.
You see stress can feel like an elephant on your chest.
For the last few months, stress has affected my workouts, my eating habits, my family, my business, and my quality of life.
God bless my husband for putting up with me lately!
I’ve been working 7 days a week because I just can’t seem to stay ahead of the things I need to do for my business and my home. People tell me to hire things out like housecleaning and design work for my business. Apparently these people haven’t seen my checkbook.
So for the most part my goal each day is to:
1) be thankful I’m alive for another day and
2) just keep my head above water so I can breathe.
There are days where I feel good and things go smoothly.
And there are days where I’m crying in my coffee telling myself I should just give up.
My workouts have been almost nonexistent. I’m lucky if I get 1-2 in a week.
I’ve indulged a bit more than I should with food.
But the one thing I try to keep telling myself?
It will be fine.
Because it will be.
Instead of forcing myself to adhere to my usual routine, I’ve focused on doing what feels right in the moment.
I know that sounds counterintuitive, so be sure to stay tuned this month as I cover ways to help manage stress.
In the meantime, if you’re feeling stressed out like I am, because maybe your nutrition, workouts, work, family, etc isn’t all rainbows and unicorns right now, COMMENT BELOW, and share it with me.
Sometimes the simple act of just letting it out, telling someone, can be healing.
I am a wife, mom, grandma & former professional “diet and exercise hopper" who understands the challenges of being 40lb overweight after having children & the damage repeated sense of failure can cause to your confidence and self-esteem.