We have all known the long loneliness, and we have found that the answer is community.
~ Dorothy Day
If you didn't know me you probably wouldn't guess that I'm an introvert.
I have a hard time being around a lot of people, which is comical considering I’m a fitness coach.
I remember when I first started to work out. I was terrified of going to the gym. I mean part of that was because I was feeling intimidated and scared of not knowing what to do but the other part was that there were people at the gym and for this introvert that was scary.
So I worked out at home.
For many years.
I didn't have a group of friends I worked out with or anyone that was doing a diet with me.
I was doing it alone and believe me, it was hard.
There was no one there to check in on me if I missed a workout.
There was no one there to call or text when I was having a moment of weakness with food
There was no one there to cheer for me or anyone for me to cheer for.
And I realize this is ridiculous considering my introvert nature but when it came to this part of my life, loneliness was just not working.
I needed a support team. A community.
Community is defined as:-a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals-
Yes! That’s what I was looking for.
And so my search began to find myself a community. But not just any community. A community of women, who were just like me...well except for the introvert part...because that would be a very quiet community.
But a group of women all working to better themselves in their health.
And it didn’t take long before I found what I was looking for in an online fitness group. Hmmm...this sounds familiar. ;) Bonus I didn’t actually have to be around people. #introvertwin
I finally found a place that I could call home, albeit virtual. But this community was more than that. It deeply impacted my fitness. It’s what finally got me to my goals.
How’s that you say?
Note - This is geared towards finding an online community given societal norms; however, these same things can be found with an in person community as well.
Community gave me:
When you become a part of a community, people start to notice when you’re not there. If I missed a few days of posting, commenting, etc in the group, someone would inevitably tag me to see where I was at. Sure you could ignore it, but when someone reaches out, it feels good.
As humans, we all want somebody to care. To know that we exist. So when someone reached out to me, it always made me feel good inside. It helped to give me that little nudge to keep going when things got rough.
Sometimes we all need a little encouragement. There were days I would post in this group about not being motivated, eating too much or feeling like I could have done better at my workout. And inevitably someone would always reach out to offer support.
Life can be lonely sometimes. More so when you’re trying to get healthy and everyone around you seems to be eating what they want and not gaining an ounce. You thought of someone right now didn’t you? ;) So to have an encouraging friend close by makes all the difference in the world.
Ever get stuck in a rut in your eating or workouts? Better yet, you’ve reached a plateau and don’t know how to get off of it? This is where community comes in once again because let’s face it, we all need a little inspiration now and then.
Let’s face it, we can only eat chicken so many ways. Or if the thought of one more plank makes you want to stab your eyes out, then having a fresh set of eyes give you some perspective is worth it’s weight in gold.
And all of the above boil down to this right here...momentum.
There are few things more motivating than being surrounded by a bunch of go-getters! When you see other women working hard toward their own goals, it's nearly impossible not to feel that momentum and want to pour into your own health and fitness goals.
Now I’m not suggesting that you can’t go it alone. There are lots of success stories from people who did this fitness thing on their own. Self-motivation is a powerful thing, but not everyone has it.
Take some time to find the right community for you. There’s no rush. All you have is time. And the effort is well worth it. Of course, you could totally “dip your toe in the water” in our community too.
You know, just to see what it’s all about.
I am a wife, mom, grandma & former professional “diet and exercise hopper" who understands the challenges of being 40lb overweight after having children & the damage repeated sense of failure can cause to your confidence and self-esteem.